freedom or love

We need to follow our freedom. Then we will understand everything. To allow others to be what they are, and do what they do. And know that we can say yes. And no. Even to the ones closest to us, the ones we esteem above all others. Freedom is also freeing others of our expectations. Releasing them from our ideas of who and what and how.

We can share our preferences with those we love, but if they from their freedom choose different, then it is up to us how we will respond.

It is amazing when one sees how unfree people behave. Particularly in the realms of earthly love. To realize that one has always behaved this way. They can encounter one who gives them all of the best of himself, Endless hours of love, encouragement, devotion, and the only string attached is that they give all their best as well. That they come as a free person too.

Then, in some particular he disappoints by not meeting their expectation in that moment. He does not behave as they think he should. Suddenly, everything about him is called into question: his motives, his character... it is disconcerting for an unfree person to see how a free one moves. He loves them, but he is not committed to their expectations of him. He does as he will. What they do not see is that they can too.

True freedom is not achieved without fearlessness.

Unfree people become afraid when this one they love does as he does, is as he is. They have much invested in his being a certain way. After all he has given still they are not content. The very simple reason for this is that they are not living free, and will not be content until they are.

For an unfree person, along with a swim in the sea of love comes a sand-bag around the neck, a sense of entitlement. When one is not free one must try to enslave others; it is unavoidable, no matter one's intention. This can be very subtle and difficult for one to discern in one's self. Unless you are a brute, it is easy for you not to see the demands you come into a relationship with. And if they are not met in all particulars, you suffer a great sense of disappointment. You can try to impose your vision of how he ought to be on him, but if he is free he will always reject it. He reminds you that he welcomes you into his heart and his life as you are, for truly he needs nothing in particular from you. He simply sees and values who you are. And because he needs nothing from you he is able to see you as you are in a way even you yourself cannot.

'I did not like it when you said that. When you did that.' To you, this is the ultimate indictment, because you expect him to do only things you like.

To choose freedom is to become in the ultimate sense unattached to what others do and others say.

He is free to do and say as he will. If you do not choose your freedom, the sign is that this makes you very angry! You want to say, "Don't you see? I have given you everything! I can't say no to you so you should never ask me to do things I don't like. I have given you my whole self, so you have to protect it now. I am Yours!"

A free man will always laugh at this point. And reject this completely. This is not how free people conceive of love. Unfree people go through life looking for that someone they can GIVE themselves to, looking at this not as the ultimate betrayal of themselves, but as the great gift no smart man can refuse. They do not see that what they are talking is mutual enslavement, and not love.

No man who truly loves us will ever buy into this devil's bargain.

When we are truly beginning to grasp the meaning of freedom, we see that in an absolute sense we do belong to our man, and he to us, and indeed that all of us here belong to each other. When we begin to truly love we see that we are all One Self! We can delight each other, share passion with each other, work together, play together: so many things we can do. The one thing we can not do is possess each other in the relative earthly sense.

My man is not put on this earth to be in every particular what I need him to be. What I can depend on with certainty is that he will always be himself, and that he does not require me in turn to be anything other than myself. In the context of true love and freedom, I will not lose his love by expressing my freedom anymore than he will lose mine by expressing his. That I may feel afraid at times to be forthright with him is an indicator that I have a way to go to be free, and really has nothing to do with him at all. He can also choose not to engage my criticisms of his behavior, because a free person knows that criticism of this kind springs from an unfree mind and heart which is disappointed in its expectations.

A free person is a person without hope, without 'should'. A free person simply is, in every moment, free. And a free person is the only kind of person who can be trusted, because he will never try to convince you to be or do anything which you can not, or choose not, to be or do.

One thing though. A free person has little tolerance for ones who are still in slavery and expect him to participate. In this world, freedom is regularly challenged by the ignorant, and always must be defended.

What is freedom

FREEDOM is self-determinance; it is the condition of minimal constraint. Naturally, in a society or community, there has to be some constraints — the burglar cannot have the freedom to steal, the thug cannot have the freedom to mug, and the businessman cannot have the freedom to excessively pollute and pay no taxes. But get the balance between personal freedom, social order and ecological integrity right, and the vast majority of citizens can live happily with moderate personal freedom and minimal constraints.

Our freedom and constraints are formalized by a very long written agreement between individuals (or legal entities such as companies) and between individuals and the society of which he, she or it is a part. This formal agreement, called the law or legal system, is a constantly evolving and changing as new situations and circumstances arise. (Parts of this legal system, usually those dealing with human rights, are deliberately less changeable and are sometimes called constitutions.) So our freedom (and lack of) is defined by the legal systems, and different legal systems give us different levels of freedom depending upon which one we stand under.

A common fallacy regarding freedom is to automatically assume that it is a byproduct of modern democracy. In fact, the "only" freedom that a democracy bestows practically on its members is that they have the right, every few years, to vote for one of a set group of representatives who will run the country on their behalf. Whilst modern democracy is an indispensable foundation for free societies, it does not guarantee freedom. That job falls to the legal system, which is not so readily influenced by our periodic voting. (Which is why freedom campaigns often involve legal challenges.)

Democracy can only be an agent of freedom if it gives people meaningful voting choices (not just a choice of 2 or 3 parties with only cosmetic differences), and if it ensures that the people have the unbiased and undistorted information necessary to make a choice that is in their interest (which can only happen with a mass media and educational system free from undue government and corporate influence). Of course, sometimes the majority may want to use their democratic rights to restrict freedom (for example in the areas of gun ownership, stem cell research, GM foods, pedophilia, the "war against terror" or fox hunting). This is because different freedoms often conflict with each other.

For example, the freedom to have clean air requires restriction of the freedom for factory owners to produce cheap goods by not having to clean up the pollution generated as a by-product. So the freedom for us all to have clean air conflicts with both the freedom of the factory owner to make larger profits (by having to clean up) and the freedom we all have to buy cheap goods. So freedoms do not necessarily conflict between different groups of people, but often with the same group of people. So the support for freedom is always a balancing act, usually between our collective long-term interests and the short-term interests of not only society, as a whole, but also of particular groups of people (which includes corporations and political groups).

Another example of this conflict might be in raising a green tax on large 4x4 vehicles to off-set their greater ecological impact. Many of us, especially 4x4 drivers, consider this an affront to our personal freedom to drive our own choice of car, and yet such a tax is likely to be in the interest of future generations, including the very children of those 4x4 drivers. Which freedom is more important? That should be obvious to anybody, but because so many decision makers are taking short-term and selfish perspectives, long-term public interests are not being respected and freedoms are not being chosen wisely.

We live today in democracies that are increasingly hostile to long-term interests and collective freedom. Our choice of political party at election time is quite restrictive (and becoming increasingly cosmetic), with politicians focused almost exclusively on their own political and financial interests rather than the long-term interests of the country as a whole. Better to promise tax-breaks today to get into power, then austerity to try to lessen the burden on our children. And when politicans are done in public office, they almost invariably move to the boards of the large corporations whose agendas they promoted when they had political power. (Politics and big business have a symbiotic relationship with each other, a symbiosis that is most certainly not in our collective interest.)

And because the mass media is entirely corporately-owned and largely dependent upon corporate advertising, it has become the propaganda machine for corporate interests, significantly under-reporting stories that might wake the people up into realizing that their freedom to have happy, healthy and fulfilling lives, not only for themselves but also for their children, seriously conflicts with the freedom of the corporate world to maximize profits by enslaving us financially (by careful control of the money supply) and selling us goods and services which we largely do not need.

As a consequence, we have become slaves to the corporate interest, where the freedom to make high profits has come to dominate all other freedoms. And this collective enslavement is dressed up by the mass media as freedom, so that anyone who critises, for example, the Federal Reserve for enslaving America soon finds themselves accused of being "Anti-American" or a "Communist". After all, how can the people be slaves when they live in the "Land of the Free". It is all media propaganda.

This corporate control of the mass media means that the mind of the people is being strongly manipulated to make voting choices that are not actually in their best interest, but in the short-term interest of corporations and politicians.

Something else that manipulates the mind of the people into undervaluing freedom is the fact that adults spend the bulk of their waking hours toiling in the corporate environment. Are corporations democratic organisations? Of course not! They are authoritarian organisations — dictatorships — with a strict hierarchy of control. This means that most adults in democratic societies spend most of their time in dictatorships, and this skews their psychology and their values so that social freedom is much easier to pry out of their hands. (Sheep mentality is reinforced at every level.) And it is Commercial Law that is increasingly dictating the terms of that slavery.

The two main legal systems in most Western democracies are: Common or Civil Law (also called Law of the Land); and Commercial Law (Maritime Admiralty, Banking Law, or the Law of the Sea).

Common or Civil Law is what normal people think of as law — an accumulating body of formalized rules made by judges in court mostly regarding our behaviour towards others in the interest of keeping society civil. The judges use common sense and previous court decisions (legal precedence) to reach their decisions. This law tends to be country-specific, and all people in that country are automatically obliged, whether they consent or not, to follow those laws, or pay a penalty such as a jail term or fine if they choose not to.

Commercial Law, on the other hand, deals with commercial agreements between two consenting parties; it is the law of business transactions. If you do not consent to standing under this legal system in any situation, then it has no legal hold over you and you cannot be legally penalized for non-conformity. That said, our birth certificates automatically bind us into a commercial agreement with the State and the banks that control the State; so our parents basically signed us away at birth into bondage to Commercial Law.

Whereas Civil Law is largely concerned with the issue of fairness in society, Commercial Law is used to bind (enslave) people into legal contracts with organisations that have their own interests at heart (invariably profit and control). It is under Commercial Law that the banks have ended up controlling almost every aspect of society, and it is under Commercial Law that we slave away in order to pay the rent or mortgage.

Commercial Law also drives the international political agendas that are rapidly eroding individual freedoms, and what is most concerning is that these agendas are immune to the people's choice of political party. Organisations (actually corporations) taking control of the world using Commercial Law include the United Nations, Food and Agricultural Organisation, World Health Organisation, World Trade Organisation, the International Monetary Fund, the European Parliament… all of which "the people" have little influence over.

The only way to counter these agendas is either through the courts (by appealing to Common or Civil Law), by knowing enough about Commercial Law so that we do not consent to it in the first place, through mass consumer choice, and through public protest and disobedience (although any form of violence is strongly discouraged as it is counterproductive).

What is concerning, however, is that with their massive lobbying power and money, corporations are now able to disproportionately influence legislative procedure, which results in a society increasingly bound by Commercial Law and the freedoms of corporations to persue their business (world-domination) agendas with minimal government and legal interference. This destroys the very fabric of human society. And people are so hoodwinked by the propaganda flowing from the mainstream media, that they honestly believe that supporting corporate freedom has something to do with their own freedom, democracy and interests! That is the consequence of very successful propaganda!

In light of these threats, it is important that we unite to defend encroaches on collective freedom by the "pseudo-freedoms" of special interest groups such as corporations. We need to have public debate about which freedoms are in the collective long-term interest and which are not, and which individual freedoms we are not prepared to surrender. After 9-11, for example, is it really in the collective interest to introduce the Patriot act? Short-term, that is debatable; but long-term, definitely not. After 9/11 we saw shameful intolerance within the US to anybody who opposed the illegal invasion of Iraq, even though Iraq had ostensibly played no part in 9/11, posed no threat to any of the invaders, and had no weapons of mass destruction. In the "land of the free", you would think that people would respect each other's right, indeed duty, to voice disapproval of misguided government policy, but that is not what happened… patriotism reared its ugly head and sheep-mentality prevailed.

Public freedom and civil rights are seriously compromised by fervent patriotism. In the words of Leo Tolstoy, "The subjection of men to government will always continue as long as patriotism exists, for every ruling power rests on patriotism — on the readiness of men to submit to power." Judging by the staggering number of "freedom" organisations and sites that are plastered with national flags and emblems, there is widespread confusion between patriotism and freedom. Patriotism serves only to pervert government accountability, allowing reprehensible behaviour to go unchallenged, even where that behaviour is directed at the people themselves. This is why governments waste no opportunity to stir up patriotism… it gets them off the hook and back in control.

Finally, it is important to remember that the freedom that so many of us now take for granted didn't just come about because everybody agreed that it was a "good idea". Previous generations literally risked their lives for freedom — that is how much they valued it. Those in authority generally don't give up that authority willingly; freedom needs to be taken from them (preferably, as Gandhi did, by peaceful means).

We are now the generation that has become the custodians of freedom. Will we allow it to languish because we have more important things to do like watching TV and shopping, or will we take up the responsibility, as our forebears did, and fight for freedom and civil liberties so that the world is a better place for ourselves and our children?

But to do that effectively we have to make choices between conflicting freedoms. We will need to favour certain freedoms over others, so the fight for freedom includes the restriction of freedom as well. This is the paradox and there is no simple formula or easy solution to this balancing act. But be warned: if you do not consciously make that choice yourself, it is unconsciously being made for you as you sit each evening in front of your propaganda screen (TV). Remember that there are many different organisations out there spending large amounts of money influencing that decision because the freedom balance has huge financial consequences.

To impress the ladies

 1.Dress to impress. Not only will you look and smell more attractive, taking care of your grooming shows her that you're mature and capable of important daily tasks. Also pay attention to the style of clothes that she wears, and wear the same style of clothing, this will help her to relate with you and find you overall more attractive. And pay particular attention to these areas:

• Shower at least once a day. It's probably best to do this in the morning, so you can start the day feeling fresh and clean. Wash your hair, soap up all over, and rinse off. Use a nice smelling shower scrub as well, something not too feminine, but not too masculine either, maybe try a smell like mint, or lemon.
• Keep your mouth clean. Brush twice daily, floss, and use mouthwash. For help in the middle of the day, use breath mints and chewing gum.
• Manage facial hair. Shave daily. Or, if you're growing facial hair, make sure it's trimmed to a uniform length and not scraggly or unruly. If you tend to have a unibrow, consider plucking any stray hairs over your nose.
• Wear a combination deodorant-antiperspirant. Apply it as soon as you get out of the shower in the morning. Make sure it also doesn't smell too feminine or too masculine either.
• Go easy on the cologne. You can use a few sprays of cologne or body spray, but don't go over 3.
• Wear clean clothes. If you find yourself scrambling for fresh laundry, consider setting up a regular washing schedule, like doing all your laundry every Sunday night.

2 Be polite. Being well-mannered doesn't mean you're boring — it means you know how to treat other people with respect, a quality most girls want in their boyfriends. Show her you know how to be considerate by doing these things for everyone, not just her:

• Say "please," "thank you" and "you're welcome." As well as asking with a "I'd appreciate it if" or "I would like for you..."
• If someone is walking through a door behind you, hold it open for him or her.
• Avoid cursing or saying anything crude in public, or in mixed company. It's fine to relax a little around your friends, but try to show your best side around people you don't know well.
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3 Think before you speak. Everyone slips up and says stupid things, but try your best to limit it when you're around this girl. Take a few seconds to evaluate what you're going to say before you spit it out.

• Don't talk up other girls. You might think making her jealous is a good idea, but steer clear. Discussing the looks of other girls in front of her will make you seem shallow and fickle. As far as she knows, she's the only one you're interested in.
• Avoid coming off as a bully. Don't throw out careless insults or put other people down, even if they're meant to be funny. She might not be able to pick up on your humorous tone and take your words at face value.
• Don't tell dirty jokes. There's a time and place for wicked humor — and it's when you're hanging out with your guy friends. Keep on a lid on it when you're around her.

4 Pay her a sincere compliment. One thing you should say when you're around her is a nice, genuine compliment. It's not as difficult as it seems! Here's what to do:

• Think of what you like best about her. It could be her smile, her laugh, her intelligence — whatever strikes you as her best quality. (The only caveat to this is that you should not compliment her on any physical traits except her eyes or her smile. She might have a great figure, but now's not the time.)
• Do it semi-privately. You don't have to get her completely alone to pay her a compliment, but try not to do it with all of her friends or your friends listening closely. You could also pull it off in a text or instant message.
• Keep it short and sweet. No need to wax poetic for three or four minutes on her best qualities. A simple one-liner will do.
• Pay attention to how you word it. Instead of saying "That's a pretty dress" or "I like your outfit," say "You look really great in that dress." Compliment the woman, not the article of clothing!
• Get the body language right. Smile! Keep eye contact while you say it, too.

5 Make her feel special. Find little ways to let her know that you think she's an extraordinary person, and she'll definitely notice.

• Don't ignore her or play hard to get. If she texts you, text back. If she wants to talk, try to make the time even if it's slightly inconvenient.
• Go out of your way to help her. If she could use a hand with something, offer your assistance! It could be carrying heavy or cumbersome items, going with her to run an errand, or talking to her through a difficult situation.
• Let her talk. The #1 mistake when talking to a girl is focusing on yourself. Girls are way more comfortable when they talk about common interests. Ask about her interests, hobbies, favorite books, music, etc. If she asks you a question, answer it in a few, short sentences and then redirect the question back at her. This engages her in the conversation.
• Start an inside joke with her! By doing this the two of you will share a secret connection that is shared between only the two of you. This will make her feel special, included and closer to you. It will also give you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter. But keep in mind, if you overuse the inside joke, it could quickly go from fun to boring, so only use it when you must.

What is love

What is Love?

Romantic love both exhilarates and motivates us. It is also critical to the continuation of our species. Without the attachment of romantic love, we would live in an entirely different society that more closely resembled some (but not all) of those social circles in the animal world. The chemicals that race around in our brain when we're in love serve several purposes, and the primary goal is the continuation of our species. Those chemicals are what make us want to formfamilies and have children. Once we have children, those chemicals change to encourage us to stay together to raise those children. So in a sense, love really is a chemical addiction that occurs to keep us reproducing.

Regardless of the country or culture, romantic love plays an important part. While cultural differences in how that love is displayed vary greatly, the fact that romantic love exists is undisputed.

But let's get down to the nitty gritty. What is it that makes us fall in love with someone in the first place?

What Makes us Fall in Love?

We all have a template for the ideal partner buried somewhere in our subconscious. It is this love mapthat decides which person in that crowded room catches our eye. But how is this template formed?

Appearance

Many researchers have speculated that we tend to go for members of the opposite sex who remind us of our parents. Some have even found that we tend to be attracted to those who remind us of ourselves. In fact, cognitive psychologist David Perrett, at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland, did an experiment in which he morphed a digitized photo of the subject's own face into a face of the opposite sex. Then, he had the subject select from a series of photos which one he or she found most attractive. According to Dr. Perrett, his subjects always preferred the morphed version of their own face (and they didn't recognize it as their own).

Personality

Like appearance, we tend to form preferences for those who remind us of our parents (or others close to us through childhood) because of their personality, sense of humor, likes and dislikes, etc.

Pheromones

The debated topic of human pheromones still carries some weight in the field of love research. The word "pheromone" comes from the Greek words pherein and hormone, meaning "excitement carrier".

In the animal world, pheromones are individual scent "prints" found in urine or sweat that dictate sexual behavior and attract the opposite sex. They help animals identify each other and choose a mate with an immune system different enough from their own to ensure healthy offspring. They have a special organ in their noses called the vomeronasal organ (VNO) that detects this odorless chemical.

The existence of human pheromones was discovered in 1986 by scientists at the Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia and its counterpart in France. They found these chemicals in human sweat. A human VNO has also been found in some, but not all, people. Even if the VNO isn't present in all of us -- and may not be working in those who do have it -- there is still evidence that smell is an important aspect of love (note the booming perfume industry). An experiment was conducted where a group of females smelled the unwashed tee shirts of a group of sweaty males, and each had to select the one to whom she was most "attracted." Just like in the animal world, the majority of the females chose a shirt from the male whoseimmune system was the most different from their own.

Do you know

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What Men Like in Women More than Anything Else

Men can’t help but love women. But do you really know what men like in women and what is it about a woman that they find most attractive? Find out here.

Men like women. A lot.

But there are a few kinds of women that men absolutely adore and fall in love with, wherever they go.

Ever seen an ad on the television where a girl walks across the street and all the guys either trail her or wolf whistle in appreciation?

Want to be that girl?

When it comes to appreciation at first sight, what different men like in women doesn’t really vary a lot.

It’s the simple things really.

And it’s really simple to become that woman who can make heads turn and men swoon wherever you go.

Find out what men like in women and be that attractive woman that all men want and desire.

But then again, once you know what men really like in women, what are you going to do with all that attention?!

What men like in women

Attraction and infatuation at first sight are very different from the deep appreciation that men get once they get to know a woman well.

#1 A cheerful attitude

The cheerful laugh or a flirty giggle of a happy, cheerful woman can melt even the hardest of manly hearts. Have a happy, cheerful personality and try to look at the happier side of life all the time. There’s something about a cheerful woman whose eyes light up with joy that draws all men to her

#2 The way she looks and dresses

It’s always easier to attract attention from men when you make an effort to look good and dress well. A bright red umbrella is always a lot more attention grabbing on a rainy day amidst all the dull umbrellas, doesn’t it?

Dress well and feel good about yourself. You don’t really have to try and stand out with bold, flashy colors all the time. Just dress like a perfect ten in well fitting clothes and appear confident. And yes, don’t forget that dab of perfume to leave a trail of men swooning over your fragrance as you walk past them!

#3 Flirty gestures

What men like in women is a streak of flirty seduction. Do you curl your lips or hold a pen in your lip when you’re trying to come up with an idea? Do you wink or raise your eyebrows flirtily when you say goodbye or pass a smart remark? Well, if you do indulge in any of those expressions or even a million other expressions that make you look cuter-than-cute, then you’re already on your way to make hearts beat a lot faster.

Men can’t get enough of flirty gestures from women. Stand in front of the mirror and try a few flirty moves. It may seem dumb at first, but hey, remember what men like in women and try this tip. It’s guaranteed to show results within seconds!

#4 Just a little bit of skin

Want that glance to turn into a second and third glance? Learn to show a bit of skin. An outright pound of cleavage or a slab of midriff can seem attractive, but it’s also trashy and crude. And it makes you look like you’re trying too hard to please and get attention. 

#5 A seductive voice

If there’s anything that makes the hair on the back of a man’s neck stand in excitement, it’s a woman’s sweet and sexy voice. Now mastering the art of the husky voice takes time, so don’t give it too much of a thought just yet.

When you’re speaking with a man, speak in a low tone and avoid the high pitched glass shattering squeal that most women use when they’re surprised or ecstatic with joy. A low, soft voice inadvertently sounds more arousing and attractive. And the best part here, it’s easy to speak in a low, softer tone without seeming like you’re trying too hard. Try your new softer voice the next time you’re on the phone. And don’t blame us if the man on the other end gets flirty!

#6 A woman who asks for help

This is every man’s dream. Well, as long as he isn’t your man already!

Men like to feel wanted and appreciated by women. Most women think men are slobs who hate working or running errands, but that’s the case only if he’s already in a long term relationship with you. If he’s single and a woman with all the aforementioned characteristics walks up to him and asks him to help her out with a smile, he’d jump up like a jack in the box.

Men absolutely love a woman who asks for help. It makes them feel more macho, gives them an excuse to have a conversation with a pretty woman, and reawakens their evolutionary desire to be the provider and the protector. And when you thank a man with a flirty smile, there’s a good chance that he’d gush with awkward embarrassment and ask for your phone number!

#7 A woman’s ability to flirt back

Do you ever flirt back with a man, even if it’s just for fun? Many women feel awkward, embarrassed or even threatened when a friendly guy starts a little flirting game.

Just because you indulge in a friendly game of flirting doesn’t mean you’re falling for a guy, remember that. If you want to impress a man, have a fun conversation with him. If you bring your flirty expressions into the conversation, there’s a good chance that any guy would want to flirt with you or sweet talk you, even if he’s with his own girlfriend!

But you don’t always have to flirt back with a guy, sometimes when you play hard to get and blow hot or cold once in a while, it’ll throw a guy off guard and make him try harder to please you. 

#8 A woman who acknowledges a man’s stare

You may like a guy who’s sipping his whiskey at the far end of the bar counter. How would you feel if he looks at you, gives you his dirtiest stare and looks away? You’d feel shattered, of course.

Men have a heart too, you know. If a guy’s trying to catch your attention or trying to exchange a glance, you don’t need to reciprocate all the time. But if he does seem decent enough, it’s a warm gesture to lock eyes for a second and look away.

You don’t need to date him or have his babies, but a simple acknowledgement that you noticed him can make his day, especially when you’re such a stunning woman with all the charms. You can look once and forget all about it, and any guy would appreciate that. If there’s one thing men like in women, it’s the ability to acknowledge a man without blowing him off in the first glance.

You could give him your dirtiest stare though, if he seems too eager to continue the game or makes a move to talk to you.

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What you say and what you say is important. Because The; The first phase of what you now and what you said when chatting after you close and say will determine what happens after 5 minutes. After what you said or the girl next to "I'm going to the bathroom," she said, and could not come up any more or odakların you just cut the relationship with the world. Phone just looks tries to impress you and hand you strain to affect you. What is all this up. Either OK or NEXT.
How do you say is important. Because The; Tone of voice, facial expressions, your gestures, your body position you can be denied. Women and men are viewed talking body language. If they sense a discrepancy between what they say they believe the body language and body language.
Doing research because you want to know the facts. You read so far about the way they affect women as some titles from the internet or you will read in the following days. Body Language and listed at the end you will see that all those concerned with charisma. What was true what you read on the internet to impress women so far?
Look into your eyes
Watch her compliment
Talk about old boyfriends
Religion, politics, issues such as right to enter politics
Its about asking questions (be careful, be family problems)
Self-talk
Open issues on which it
Again compliment the meat
Whether it's face and shoulders facing
Talk appears stable, with a reassuring tone
Seem fussy and panicked
Too shy or aggressive act
Possible to extend the list. Now we are going to a higher paragraph immediately. What did I say? "Body Language and finally all those lists you will see that you are dealing with charisma." Now you know about this list is that which matters.
Now it's time to take action, should improve themselves in these matters. Will not only affect women. Family life and business, you establish relationships in a much more healthy friends. If you've tired of being the zurna last hole, you need to change the tone and position interests you. Personal Development experts continue to unremitting efforts in this regard. You still want to play the lead role of Turkish films pathetic? I think no.
Work, Love, and you want to go up the career ladder with strong and confident steps should improve themselves.

What is Women's Secret Breakthrough? How Indispensable Olursun for Women?

I want to reveal an essential point before the tip. We first need to understand what you think and act differently than men. Little things that do not care as much as you can jot great impact on women. Then the women can say Breakthrough As a first rule; "Women are different from men." Do not rush I will give other clues. But firstly I would like to mention some of the issues for self-improvement.
Studies have revealed that the external appearance is quite effective in the first encounter. "If I were handsome, I could sit here already read everything you wrote that it would be much easier!" I kind of heard that too. He carefully read the first line of case again. I use the word there is no handset. Only the "exterior" skin I mentioned. Clothing, accessories and how you carry them, well-groomed hair and hands, etc. movements. All this and more here what I say "Outside View" can be grouped under the name. An impressive eye color, would not be a bad long lengths. Obviously, this is a significant advantage to be handsome. But this alone does not mean nothing. If these features in you even if you do not worry, they are not obstacles to affect your women. I want to give the exact location of the way the second rule. "Less is hasty, as you did before!". Give confidence to the environment and your behavior with your movement. Women you feel uneasy with you. Give them a quiet haven tempestuous sea.
Experience, experience, instinct and science are all on your side. Is not really a miracle to impress women. Scientists have studied human behavior for years. Charisma, charm, charisma, they decrypt the major impacts on people leaving cases such as body language. Was not the work of scientists who have studied these issues in power? On the contrary, we are talking about the subject so important that many state-founder, has opened the doors of their current position artist and athlete. Have developed themselves and tried to impress people on guided help in these areas. Here's what this research has shed light on the unknown to affect women. I want to say that. Do not be afraid science is on your side.

Men's 10 Ways to a Happy Factors

1. You have a sense of humor: Men's ridiculous jokes, funny, if not laugh. Self funny box and you will be happy to entertain that thought. Both men and women to enjoy humor. So what men would laugh and laugh weighing what your mind, you can make your jokes make her happy accordingly.

2. Making a molehill: the slightest problem or problems that magnifies the cause of new problems. Eliminate rapidly discussions, subject to men who are not happy woman trying to shutdown.

3. Do not hit the face of the defect: Overweight, sweat or skin problems are not just women-specific problems. Men also suffer from the same problem. The same situation also applies to how men do not like the word you've got a woman to lose weight. "The core of the output, you're lazy, you're blind, increased acne like" Be aware that you will unhappy him with words.

4. Get a Gift: Always gift rather than waiting, also received her first head of a gift forty years. Every man is a child who loves children grow and gifts.

5. Be well groomed: to live with ugly and neglected what men want a woman? "But he likes me natural state" you also do hair, make sure your head. Well-groomed and beautiful a woman is man who is happy to be living and traveling men feel lucky.

6. him look even more stupid: if you show yourself on everything from her superior, it would unhappy and you alienate yourself. Therefore, in contrast to make it look like you have some issues throwing intelligence shows the back of the plan, provide the men come to the fore.

7. Know Susman: "Less talk a lot of work, there is no language mouth, talk Imagine two ..." list could be extended. You are enough to implement them. Because men are happy woman speaking over not much speaking.

8. Make Practice: Try to be practical in all things. Dining, shopping and so on. works will glorify you in the eye quickly make the man. Male, sightseeing area of ​​100 stores is not a blouse women, 1 store sightseeing like a dress of women. If you are a pasta but even 1 hour, whatever your job oxcart speed Sorry, but you have no chance.

9. Do not want to do the things Dislikes: In short, try to change his habits. There is no possibility of the same to be everything that you both love. Therefore, instead of waiting to do his own favorite things, you can search for commonalities together.

10. Know note: the problems you have your head filled with regrets and disappointments if you do not place the things that good. That's why your memory periodically 'reset' Know throw.

Female How Happy Recharge?

It is the biggest obstacle in front of people a sense of happiness. What if they understand the people's happiness, depending on what life expected.
Life "marriage-style" living one, misperceptions and false expectations about life, also applies to marriage.

As Confucius would be appropriate to mention here to understand these words;
"Many are happy to seek out higher than man, some of the lower; but happiness is a long line of people. "(Kikos Kazantzakis, Zorba, Can spring. 2003, p.95)
If people do not know the size of the neck, ie, capabilities, and do not recognize the opportunities to develop, expectations, happiness is not possible to capture the opportunities and the ability to overcome.
Suitable woman to be happy when viewed from this perspective, it is the woman who knows herself. One seeking happiness from their height above the level, you will find it. If you have this basic requirement, then men can do anything to please a woman. And they did it for her, you will also return to it also as happiness.
Since the marriage of man to be happy, happy should appear next to the woman.
Be happy the woman is the first condition of man to be happy.
As the quality of a society that must be measured by the quality of the society of women, happiness and peace of mind to say it would depend on the woman's happiness and tranquility would not be wrong.
Happy child without mother, without the male partner happy, happy illusion that women expect to be happy without society.

Woman "Prepare to Happiness"
Of men and women before marriage "woman of the heart" is. With femininity, tries to call her by that overlooked the EDA. After marriage and children also began to be consecutive, the woman of the man's heart "woman of the house" becomes.
Thus man's heart may be discharged.
If this gap discovered by others, may appear from behind a series of dangers to remove the unhappy event.
Ladies "home" to take the forefront, besides the need to check whether or not to fall into a position to neglect his wife, the men do not want to lose the happiness since women should strive towards keeping close to the hearts of his wife.
To be happy since women first need to prepare her happiness. Because, if he is not happy, it can not be a better chance of happiness with the man with her ..
For if the woman is not happy, you first need to know what and how to be happy with her.
HAPPY WOMEN WILL APPROACH
Women Do not have a morbid personality, implementation can make him happy with extremely easy way and so you "happy woman" s you can get a chance to be happy.
This behavior, "not the man for the happy" shall mean the preparation of men by women.
Here, women will be applied across a man who wants to be happy is simple but important rules;
I learn Appreciation, you increase the enthusiasm!
Being admired women are appreciated, they liked to hear a good word.
Know that you are loved and appreciated would make them happy. Thanks and appreciation towards them should never be neglected.
In fact appreciated "securities know" is. The Securities know, indicates that who knows precious asset.
While it is important for everyone to be appreciated, it is even more vital for women.
It also will encourage enthusiasm and will do better. Full of love and appreciate them more easily and can not promise anything that motivates.
However, it should be done before the vandalism. After breaking into the hearts Otherwise, it may not matter what the forgiveness of the world.!
II. Compliment get enchanted!
A woman most, he believed came from inside, with a beautiful promise he would be happy to doubt the sincerity. Compliment the desire to see his wife is like the earth needs rain dehydrated.
Somehow it seems like this is very difficult for men. They declined to say a good word to flatter the woman.
However, it seems like a good word for them to forgive the world.
You will not get the tangible sacrifice, it is possible to win in this way. Compliment your tenth, you will create the feeling of not compliment.
Especially compliment them enough to revel in addition to others!
A sweet supposedly more "sweet" is no water.
Compliment is the antidote to the cold feeling.
Your words of compliment not only prevent the negative emotions that may occur to you, raise good feelings in you. Compliment the person you are heaped, like blooming flowers begin to appear beautiful in your eyes.
In fact, most of what you see it, your back is a reflection of the behavior that you show him.
I'd be happy to compliment the woman is a happy woman flourish. At the same time, you will complement your outlook and your happiness will increase it.
If you want to be with a beautiful woman, this is the shortest road ahead.
III. After the break, not the reward before the break; You rejoice!
Usually men when they mistake themselves, they need to do something to remedy the situation. Get something, like to take you to a place or a good word to say! But a broken heart repaired immediately perceived effort here.
"Apology" would mean replacing these behaviors are important things to do when there is no obvious error. The reward before without any problems create feelings of gratitude and reveals the idea that seriously.
"The men will make a mistake, it's a nice word or a gift on the future" would uneasy conditioning of women. It can bring and redeem frequent repeated after a while, even those made by the logic of disgust occur.
Style redeem himself in the psychology of guilt approaches wants women "masculine" behaviors are not. Even perceived incapacity to.
 IV. Show him that you remember the little things, big thumbs happiness
Most women in the world is composed of the border drawn by the wife.
Life hands her husband's expectations will be realized. It is therefore noted that wants to know how often remembered. If unhappy forgotten how to think, would be to that extent also gratifying to see that remembered. Even though to offer a wildflower.!
When your face; "He came out of me!" He should be able to.
These women will be enough to be as happy as we can not predict.
There is no need to often great sacrifices for it. The meaning of the gift for a lady mature and personality are important!
You need to know that the little things, happiness, great things facility and perhaps perceived as a bribe.
V. him, "as one exits with" Quit that, you get romance
Men, family members of a meal, wander around in, to take a vacation they usually do in a sense of duty. Sometimes they are very willing to do without it.
If someone is not willing to work she did not expect to enjoy.
Reluctantly made will not taste a job. Even when angry thesis, crushers words and actions, mutual system are observed.
However, as a volunteer, sincere enthusiasm, a trip to the interest to enjoy, head to head for a meal or a holiday, happiness becomes a reinforcement for both sides.
Business and problems without speaking, without children, the third one; relatives, no one should go without such friends! That it should come; such interest before marriage! Or as someone else out! It would not be happy to hear her. If so, it is not healthy.
VI. Sensuality for women "sexuality" means skin before; Show your duygusallığı that, whether pleasurable sexuality!

Especially when it comes to sexuality is not ihmalet emotional acting. Because sexuality is not like toilet needs, whether sensuality.!
Scratching sex sexuality for a happy union undeniable importance, but most men will install a selfish attitude about it. Without emotional expressions and behaviors, attitudes, and only to give the impression he thought himself.
Whereas women to see whether emotional attitudes and priorities in sexuality. Digest of neglect. Especially hospitalized man's work is finished, go back to fit them badly.
With beautiful words, their desire to be that the recognition of their priority.
Otherwise, wives, albeit man go to bed so they can not be perceived differently for rape. They feel they are used. Resentment, anger, show responses in the form of anger.
It's always like that in the case of repetition, they begin to behave increasingly cold and reluctant. He, in fact, sees his wife as the culprit for this problem caused himself.
Women, you know to prepare for the wife and the male is able to cater to her, marriage, sexuality is just a "task" or "chore" creates goes beyond perceived as manic and refreshes the taste of marriage and complementary dynamics.

VII. Keep your promise that your partner is not alleged, in essence "male" You get to enjoy the togetherness

An important addition to the emotional meaning of the union of a man and woman dahav to that, it also; "Trust needs" is the meeting. Shelter, will be protected financially to feel a presence at the side of the spiritual patronage will see .. live in confidence provided by the person to be sure that your loved one
"Seven" and "trust" that except for one, and any other institutions that need to be considered to meet people.

These needs will dispatch them to behave in a very serious thing or two. "Word" and "love."

They seriously joy and love, the love behind "as the boy" will stop. Like men, do not show a form of escape behavior tighten. Than men to reach their loved ones resist much more.
On the other hand, they also want to keep the promises.

Do not forget his promise to the man or downplay them thank you very unhappy.

As in the statement, promise, while this "man said" and that should be fulfilled knowing.
This, in that they "trust" is essential to meet the needs. Otherwise, do not stand next to a man in question would not be able to feel comfortable and confident in themselves. The women who do not feel safe in what could be happy, nor happiness can give.
Who wants to be happy with them, you must show that men with promise. Without thinking, you should definitely avoid the mere promise to stave off early.

10 Romantic Night Proposal

Spend a romantic night with your lover or husband in your hands. However, for those who know what to do, we've compiled 10 recommendations. Do not forget to make your relationship more interesting and exciting romantic evenings.

1. Cook together
Cook your favorite meal together. You will see will be a lot of fun. After dinner you can eat together prepare a candlelit and romantic music. Do not worry if you eat the collar at all. Whether you have a plan B against it and say eat outside. You'll laugh while eating your meal you eat and how to burn speak.

2. With that bathroom
Fill the tub with hot water and a few drops dripped from relaxing aromatherapy oils. If you have rose petals in your garden you can take to the water. Hot water can experience romantic moments.

3. Read a book or books you love to read together

Read passages from books to one another. These passages are always going to be hard to read in a businesslike way and will have a very fun time.

4. booked an expensive hotel

If you have money to spend, the book places a five-star oetl. Have a romantic dinner in the stylish restaurant. Massage, and luxury linens, soft bed to sleep together. Anacker worth can be costly.

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5. spent a night together in a small but reliable hotel I have stayed on the shore

Even if a little scary horror that will make you more romantic and closer to each other. 6. Walk on the beach.

The most impressive part of the scene of the most romantic films made walking hand in hand on the beach. This could be a lake edge. Who together speak sweet nothings yürük and rolled along the sand. If the weather is warm enough to go swimming at night, but be careful. The beach can be very romantic.

6. going to dance

Increasingly smaller and the romantic night clubs spend as much time in the morning. Will allow you to embrace the whole day there is nothing more romantic.

7. Do something new

The beauty of romance is because the legend in fact intertwined. Make something you've never done before for a romantic evening together. Go to any restaurant on the town you choose. Make you or do something you have not done before

9. Follow the Stars

If your balcony, watch the stars lie down together if you have a terrace. If your telescope may be better Nearby

10. Do not do anything

Sometimes it can be very romantic to relax at home doing nothing. Leave everything on its own, to behave as what you will bring to your heart and follow.

TRUE FALSE KNOWN in Sexuality

Yogurt next to the fish inedible ?? like the fact that not any accuracy, but today the ongoing false beliefs vardır.Belde the yogurt yenmes next to the fish as legend would not be much of a loss, but superstition in the zehirlemez. but sexuality a new one or myths unfortunately they do the devastating effects and sexual life of poison in the formation of edebilirler.cinsel problem or both sexual desire sezmiştir.h the obvious negative effects vardır.Örneğin says in one scenario kuralım.b team a while to feel ready for the fact that evening sexuality because of their daily worries and male partner take it or wanted to make love to his wife because it believes that the right of the start of the sexuality of the woman speaks not say that. Although he felt himself tired and confused to break his wife likes a lot and have initiated sexual intercourse to protect their masculinity. Erect during sexual intercourse even now it has lost its hardness often. He is always ready to have sex with that man, that it is a success, the need to harden the strong penis during lovemaking, that they should remain constant during intercourse the penis hardens once hard. These wounds of the masculinity did not notice, and now one side to himself sexuality almost eyeing him almost making love and not cause his mind I think that the poor do I questions geçmektedir.ka You also have difficulty in hardening of the man's penis like him the difference whether now man. Her face was hung. Even saw that contemplative men think that another woman had in mind. Because women have that men of every moment must be ready to have sex, hardening but felt the man's wife as of the phrase wife's men realized in the face of inanmaktadır.kad will be lost by lost interest in proven failure by seeing happy not. Now men insufficient fails, it fails women and men can not bind itself and a poor woman. Men can not open the feelings of women because men are stronger and should not their feelings. Women also can not be sure yet silent. This petting Incorpo bitmiştir.oys sexual intercourse with each physical contact should end with a cum and orgasm. The next sexual intercourse experience a full fiyaskodur.çünk now naked body are unable to detect it though spirits, though not ready to take the double pleasure of sexuality and body are very close hazırlanmaktadır.çıplak exam is very far away.

FREQUENT misconceptions:



Men always want sex and is always ready to have sex.
Sexual intercourse should always start men.

If the woman initiates sexual intercourse indicates that this woman is horny and dangerous.

Petting equals intercourse, it is not so important for the activity outside.

When the man's penis to harden must be discharged as soon as (preferably into the vagina).

Petting should always be natural and spontaneous, talk or think about making love destroys him.

All physical contact must be completed with intercourse.

Men should indicate their feelings.

Every man should know how to give pleasure to every woman.

But it would be nice to have an orgasm with sex both spouses together.

If the spouses love each other, they know how to enjoy their having sex together.

Instinctively what the other of the spouses in sexual intercourse and think they know what they want.

Masturbation is bad and harmful.

During sexual intercourse, masturbation is wrong.

The loss of erection penis man his wife during sexual intercourse means that the attractive.

Up fantasies during sexual intercourse is wrong.

Male or female sex can not say no.

There are clear and precise rules on what is normal during sex.

Sexual intercourse should always be checked at the time of men.

Male sexuality must always be experienced.

The petting active women and men should take a passive role during sexual intercourse.

Men are always reach orgasm faster than women.

Men's husband is innocent and holy, more fulfilling and satisfying sex should be done with more prostitutes.

Generally women who are insatiable sexual fantasy life during sexual intercourse.

Of the marriage relationship masturbation indicates that one of the spouses go well.

Do not hold mutual masturbation can never replace the pair of sex.



MODERNITY Myths



It is necessary to be a modern woman to orgasm.

Modern women's sexuality is started.

Modern woman who lived in pre-marital sex is.

The spouse plenty to inform women during sexual intercourse to be the modern woman, so it is necessary to mention that turns what dislike what.



SEXUAL INFORMATION AND FALSE BELIEFS gap, IN THE MIX:



Menopause (cessation of units) causes a sudden decrease in the woman's sexual desire.

Decreased sexual desire in women during pregnancy.

Harm to the child to be born sexual intercourse during pregnancy.

Menstrual period, women are not comfortable being approached them.

The hardening of the penis must be discharged.

Men and women 60 years after they lose interest in sex.

To have an orgasm at the same time men and women shows that men early discharge.

Men should be able to orgasm during every sexual intercourse his wife.

The relationship between the spouses is often sexual intercourse shows that successful.

Men always desire more often than women in sexual intercourse.

The bigger the penis becomes so saturated transmitter for female sexual intercourse.

A woman can not reach the uterus surgically taken longer orgasms.



Misconceptions about vaginismus



Phallus (penis), female sexual organ (vagina) is big enough not to get into the.

In the first entry of the penis into the vagina becomes very strong pain.

In the first entry of the penis into the vagina becomes excessive bleeding.

If men want to necessarily induced sexual intercourse, so you need to approach it is unable to sexual intercourse.

If prolonged process results in an inability to enter into a sexual relationship marriage divorce.

The appearance of the genitals is repulsive.